This is your face on motherhood

Be afraid. Be very afraid.

Yes, I allowed Parents Magazine to publish the photo of me for millions to see. Yes, I am brave. The story is getting terrific reception on Facebook – almost 3,000 Likes and 320+ shares in the past few days alone. Here’s a teaser, plus a link to the full piece:

Just before turning 7 months old, our little girl—normally a champion sleeper—revolted, suddenly adopting the nocturnal habits of a grandpa with an irritable prostate: waking up multiple times a night, and peeing all over the place. One day while she slept on my shoulder, I got a text from my friend Ali: “Is now a good time to chat?” I held my phone up to snap a pic of the babe and me, to wordlessly convey my Occupied status. The look I was going for: serene, soft-focused mother-and-child selfie—the kind that Victoria’s Secret models post to Instagram.

What I got: Beetlejuice, only less rested and with bigger boobs. The circles under my eyes were cavernous; my scalp was playing peekaboo through my hairline. If my skin tone were a crayon, its name would be Pallor. I looked like a lactating Steve Buscemi.

Most women would hit the Delete button faster than your teenage barista can judge you for the two pancake-size milk splotches on your nursing tank. Not me. I hit “Send to Facebook,” along with the caption, “Isn’t new motherhood beautiful?”

Keep reading my essay in the August edition of Parents Magazine: What Motherhood Really Looks Like: One Mom Shows Her True “Selfie”

FYI Here's what I look like on a good day...


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And my accompanying quiz - Do You Overshare on Social Media?

 

 

 

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Oh, Boy: Is This the Era of the Designer Baby?

North West may have a designer wardrobe, an overflowing passport and a bigger bedroom than you do, but one thing she hasn’t had is a sibling. This week, though, mom Kim Kardashian announced that she and husband Kanye West are expecting a baby boy. Before Nori could start hiding her toys, rumors swirled that K & K—who have been open about their fertility struggles—used genetic-based technology to choose the sex of their baby-to-be to ensure they had “an heir.” The couple denies this. But now everybody and their mother are talking about the controversial process.

Keep reading my story on gender selection on Fit Pregnancy dot com

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How much is this gonna cost me, doc?

WHEN KERI GLICKSMAN took her family to the circus in 2013, she became the main attraction as she fell down a set of stairs, breaking her right ankle. Within a few days, she began experiencing a painful burning sensation in that leg. Fearing a blood clot, she called her orthopedist’s office. “The doctor on call wasn’t concerned,” says the 38-year-old mother of two, who lives near Chicago. “He said I could get an ultrasound if I wanted, but that it was very expensive. And since he didn’t seem worried, I figured why spend the money? With a $5,000 deductible, I would have been on the hook for nearly the whole thing.” Yet five days later, Glicksman was in the ER with chest pain and labored breathing; a blood clot had indeed traveled to her lungs, requiring her to spend a week in the ICU.

Keep reading my story in O: The Oprah Magazine, on comparison shopping for health care, here.

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Has Breastfeeding Jumped the Shark?

Hell, no.

Breastfeeding is everywhere these days. It seems you can’t swing a nipple shield without hitting a headline about a mom being shamed for nursing her baby in public; Alyssa Milano is tweeting about her milk being confiscated at Heathrow Airport while Olivia Wilde poses with her newborn son, Otis, in Glamour; a hauntingly moving image of a post-mastectomy mom nursing her newborn went absolutely viral; and Kourtney Kardashian posted this kickass “After the show it’s the after party” shot of her pumping in a Vegas hotel room:

 

 

 

 

And then there’s the rise of the brelfies. A Who’s Who of celeb moms have shared pictures of themselves breastfeeding their little ones, including Gwen StefaniPinkJulie Bowen (impressively tandem nursing twins) and basically the entire lineup of Victoria’s Secret models. (Doutzen Kroes just posted this one of her feeding 10-month-old daughter Myllena, garnering 92k ‘likes’ and counting.)

When Time published a photo of Jamie Lynne Grumet nursing her 3-year-old son on its cover in 2012, along with the somewhat incendiary headline, “Are You Mom Enough?” it ignited a blaze of controversy. Attachment parenting and extended breastfeeding advocates applauded; others cried foul at the thought of a preschooler still drinking milk straight from the source. A year later, Gisele fueled the fire with a glam-squad image of her simultaneously breastfeeding, having her hair styled, nails manicured and makeup applied. “Supermom!” some women hailed. “Unrealistic!” plenty of other moms cried. “That’s not what normal breastfeeding looks like.”

Keep reading at Mom.me

 

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From Yo-Yo Dieter to CrossFit Queen

The following is an As Told To story I wrote for WomansDay.com. The woman speaking is popular blogger Roni Noone…

I grew up hating my body. I remember my father pointing out that I was 10 or 20 pounds overweight when I was in middle school, and it crushed me. At just 11 years old, I was already comparing myself to thinner friends and hiding behind baggy sweats. In high school, I’d have salad for lunch and do 100 sit-ups before bed, but it didn’t shrink my round belly and chunky thighs.

Gaining the freshmen 25 in college didn’t help. Over the summers, I’d diet and drop a few pounds, only to gain 20 more in the fall. Pizza and wings cravings always won out over my desire to be thin, and at graduation in 1999, I weighed 185 lbs, 30 more than when I left high school. By 2000, I’d passed the 215 mark. I was depressed, miserable and uncomfortable in my own skin.

Over the next few years, I tried everything from fasting to Phentermine, one half of the diet drug Fen-phen, finally finding success with the Atkins diet. I lost 45 pounds eating bacon, cheese and bun-less burgers. But I became consumed with counting carbs. It wasn’t sustainable. The weight crept back.

Starting a Family

In summer 2004, my husband, Bill, and I made the big decision, so I needed a more balanced way of eating to conceive and carry a child. The Weight Watchers Points System sounded appealing, not like a fad diet. Sure enough, I lost 11 pounds in four weeks, without feeling deprived.

Then we got pregnant. The high of seeing those two pink lines was soon replaced by fear over my impending weight gain. I stopped counting points and gained a staggering 70 pounds in nine months.

In June 2005, when my son, Ryan, was two weeks old, I returned to Weight Watchers. I didn’t want Ryan growing up with an out-of-shape, self-conscious mom, but I was nervous. I wasn’t a kale-eating, yogurt-loving runner; I was more of a 209-lb, Lucky Charms girl. But I followed the program to a T, downsizing my portions and journaling. Soon I realized I could have a huge salad with protein for the same points value as a half-cup of Lucky Charms—and I felt way more satisfied afterwards.

Back then, exercise felt like punishment, so I didn’t do much other than walking and trying the standard “park far away at the mall” tips; my focus was on breaking the yo-yo diet cycle and living healthy. I didn’t care if I lost a ton of weight—I just wanted to be a strong role model for Ryan. Finally, I was doing this on my terms.

Keep reading at womansday.com

 

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